I don’t know about you, but in recent months my libido has taken a back seat a bit, and orgasms have definitely suffered. On top of that, my busy work and social calendar has left me very little free time (or, ahem, me time), and that can make things even more stressful.. When life takes a turn for the busy, things can get stressful and stressful, and prioritizing yourself can feel impossible. But as we know, orgasms have a slew of health benefits that counteract the negative effects of stress, so when you’re feeling down, getting a good orgasm into your daily schedule is actually exactly what the doctor ordered. That’s why when I heard it Wash I was saluting the “I Come First” masturbation challenge, I knew I needed to participate.
To celebrate the 14-day challenge (down from last year’s grueling 30-day challenge) that runs through June 30, the sexual health brand has released a self-connection kit. It’s packed with everything you could need to prioritize pleasure and get your libido back, including the popular clitoral suction vibrator, the Empress 2, for under $100. Considering the super-powered vibrator normally retails for $160, and this deal is exclusive to those who join I Come First, I only had one thing to say: challenge. I accepted.
Self Connection Kit, $90
Besides providing you with a new toy at a great discount, the Vush Challenge also contains tips for getting the most out of your masturbation. The people behind the challenge claim it is specifically designed to dispel concerns about lack of time or guilt over prioritizing fun. In fact, their findings showed increased productivity, reduced stress, and improved sleep after two weeks of regular masturbation. Benefits also include improved mood and digestion, strengthening of the pelvic floor, and increased circulation. The set includes not only the fan-favorite Empress 2 but also an exclusive calendar to track your masturbation progress and a deck of cards full of self-love prompts.
With nothing to lose except for a few minutes from my daily schedule, I focused on the challenge with my signature group game: Empress 2.
Empress 2 is great. I could immediately see why Vush would recommend it for a fun challenge. Everything about the clit suction vibrator was fun, from its bright pink color to its matching silky travel case to its ergonomic easy-to-grip handle and awesome suction mouth. On top of looking like a fun time, the toy features soft, smooth sucking with five different levels of intensity, and claims to replicate the sensations of oral sex with a flutter and suction that mimics the tongue. The website description also warned me that after my gaming session, I’d like to give the game a standing ovation… if I could still stand it. Anticipation ran high (and in fact, I try to really live up to the challenge), I set aside an hour out of my day to take a shower. I wanted to make my time for self-enjoyment, well – really fun.
With my regular schedule, I usually fit in my playtime either right before bed when I’m half asleep or first thing when I wake up when (you guessed it) I’m still half asleep. But after feeling encouraged by the Vush campaign, I began to reap the full happiness of my “me time.” I took a full hour in the afternoon to pour myself an Epsom salt bath. With my highly curated sexy playlist in the queue and my current favorite romance novel on my Kindle to re-read some of the most moody scenes (additional shout outs to Emily Henry Book lovers For that library scene!), I got into a perfectly busted bath time scene and got to work.
It turned out that all my preparation was in vain, because as soon as I turned on the cool pink tool and tucked it between my legs, I was done. With most clitoral suction cues, there is a bit of a learning curve, how to adjust it, how much pressure to apply pressure, and how to move your hand so that the vacuum seal stays closed. that was no Empress Case 2. This thing intuitively knew exactly where to close and seal and got sucking on Immediately. I barely had time to mentally catch up with me before the little sucker put me in the grip of my vice, spattering and exploding into a full body orgasm that was so powerful and prolonged that it made me see black spots. My body stayed tight and shiver for as long as it could with a suction vibrator, which usually became too painful to last long. The Empress was, however, complete queen in its own proprietary league. My only word of caution is that it does not have the ability to lower suction levels, and as I tried to open it up, I ended up cycling through the highest levels of suction, sending my orgasm to new (slightly painful) heights. Honestly, it was So So much so that I had to lie down as soon as I got out of the shower for fear of breaking out from the intense combination of overstimulation and overheating.
Lying on my bed, my legs still wobbling and heaving in heavy pants as I tried to cool off, I looked at the clock and realized I didn’t need anywhere near the full hour I had allotted. In fact, from start to finish, it took me less than 15 minutes, which alleviated any kind of lingering guilt I was beginning to feel from taking a luxurious midday bath. This is because, as Fouche wanted to show me, there is nothing guilt-inducing in self-pleasure. I’m excited for this movement to go viral and help remove the taboos that still strangely hinder the conversation about female masturbation. Plus, now that I know the Empress 2 can get me there (and then some!) in less than a few minutes, I’m looking forward to reaping all the other benefits that come with two weeks of daily masturbation (and using a calendar to keep myself accountable!) . Do yourself a favor and join the challenge today. It’s time to own this first-rate self-connection kit and reconnect with your body and badly lost libido. Self pleasure is yours for the taking, so go ahead and take it.
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