If you’re looking for dildos online, you’ll find an endless selection of dildos of all textures and sizes. Of course could Buy the first product that pops, but we’re here to help you be a smarter shopper. We spoke to sex experts and educators to help you choose one that’s worth your time (and dollars).
A dildo is basically a penis-shaped sex toy that can be inserted or used for vaginal or anal stimulation. If you’re a newbie to sex toys, you may be tempted to reach for vibrators, but experts actually recommend dildos as an excellent sex toy for those who are also starting out. “The main advantage is that it gives you more options for individual enjoyment, pleasure with a partner, and complete control,” Heather Shannon, LCPC, a certified sex therapist and podcast host Ask a sex therapisthe tells SELF. Many can even attach belts so you can go hands-free with your partner, and if it’s just you, a dildo is a great way to enjoy penetration on your own.
“Dildos are a lot more versatile than what you get,” Shadeen Francis, LMFT, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, tells SELF. “It could be phallic or imaginary [in shape]Rigid or flexible, they can come in every length, girth, and degree of curve. Many are portable and don’t need batteries, while others vibrate and propel. Some can suck on shower walls, some have hollow insides so they’re cradle lead rockers, and some have dual ends (or two heads facing the same direction, for double the penetration).
What should I consider when shopping for a dildo?
First, figure out how you want to use the dildo. If you’re interested in trying anal sex or pegging for the first time, choose a penis with a shorter length and less bulk that can be inserted to adjust to the sensation, says Shannon. To experience more of a feeling of stretching or fullness, choose a dildo on the fuller and longer side.
Next, decide how realistic you want the dildo to be. there are many Intensively Vibrant dildos, down to the veins and varying shades. If that’s not for you, there are also brightly colored and shiny options, as well as ones that look more like abstract sculptures. Regardless of your choice, if you plan to put a dildo up your butt, make sure it has a flared base so it doesn’t get stuck, and always choose non-porous, body-safe materials such as medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, and lucite.
Below, we’ve rounded up the best dildos according to experts and buyers, all of which are safe for the body.